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She's Just Not That Into You...

An interesting and oddly amusing conversation happened on my FB page today...someone I don't know who added me off of Susun Weed's page posted this:
Her:  Hey there, I created a potion and prayer work for a friend to attract a mate, now she can't get rid of him.  He was not a good match, she is trying to get her family back together.  We really need to get rid of this guy.  Please help.
Me:  There are two sides to this. Physical and metaphysical. I'm not really an expert on love magic but I'll try. First of all, she should do the magic herself, if someone else does it for her it is not as clear or accurate. It's a little different with healing magic. Love magic has to come from her soul if it's magic for her. Healing can come from others as well, but the individual has to choose to heal.
You had good intentions though and that's most important. But since you did the initial magic you should help her remedy it, since your energy is involved. In fact, part of the attachment is to you, even if no one else knows it. You will have to metaphysically cut those strings between him and yourself and him and your friend, you may even find that you have formed some strings of the same energy between yourself and your friend, forming a triangle, which isn't good for any of you and you will need to detach that energy and neutralize it, too, for your friendship. I will do my best to tell you how to do that, but most of it will have to happen in your mind/energy space and your friend's. She can get involved, right? It will make it more effective and easier.
It's hard to get good results when doing love magic for someone else. It's like wires get crossed or something. But what strikes me is that, if the spell was aimed at attracting a good mate for her, it seems unlikely that he appeared as a result, if he is (as you say) a bad match- though I suppose the crossed wires could have done that. The spell should have attracted what you asked for- what did you ask for, specifically? I think the only really good results from love spells (in my experience) are when someone asks to find the right person and recognize the right person and they simply define this person as just right for them or as a soulmate and don't define it too much beyond that. That's actually what worked for me. Though if they have a pattern of attracting, say, abusive people, it doesn't hurt to define that you are looking for someone who is gentle and respectful and will not abuse you. The right person, a soulmate, will not be like that, anyway.
Before I get into the metaphysical more, I want to talk about the physical. Has she told him he needs to leave her alone? She needs to set the boundaries in no uncertain terms. She needs to tell him she doesn't want him in her life anymore and that he may not call or visit or show up where she works or whatever he is doing. She needs to tell him that if he doesn't respect her wishes she will get the law involved. Then she needs to follow through. She should talk to the police right away and tell them what is going on so that if more happens (and hopefully it won't), they will know and be prepared, and if she has to get a protection or restraining order, it will be easier to do so. Then if he continues to bother her, she needs to get an order on him. She should also carry a pepper spray if it comes to this, and perhaps change her number if she can. Any attention she gives him will encourage him to continue harassing her. If the police seem reluctant to help her, she needs to be insistent and if she has to threaten legal action if they fail to do their jobs, she should. Usually that's all it takes. 
I'm gonna write more in a new comment, this is getting long.
Her: Thank you for your time. I should have given you a back story.
I totally understand exactly where you are coming from and respect all that you have shared. Years ago I was given the ability to help people find a mate. After a few years of study and a long heart filled search for the love of my life (12 years together and strong) The Universe has granted me some kind of force to help people align their intentions and find love. I don't do this randomly or just for anyonw. There is a process and we can talk about that more, but believe me, I tell the seeker to be really clear on what they want before we start the process. Anyway, this guy IS what she asked for but a few more times around the sun everything changed. It's like he won't leave her alone,, not in a stalker way, but just like he moved in. hes at her apt ALL THE TIME. She is a swwet, sensitive, hippie type and wants to end the relationship. You are right, she does need to verbalize but does not want to hurt his feelings... We were hoping to just genlty move him along. I would love to help him find someone else, or a job out of town, something ONLY GOOD for him. Maybe you are right, she just needs to tell him. I dont think the law needs to be involved. Not yet, he doesnt have a clue. We got some onions and cloves, writng his name on parchment and putting this together. She has realized she wants her husband back, and I think that is who the spell was really for. Oh dear Lord, I dont want to be a string, a triangle, nothing. i just enjoy helping people find love.
Me:  (I hadn't seen the above post yet, so I kept talking about the way to deal with a magically-induced stalker, as this is a typical problem people have when doing love magic, and others have asked me about it in the past.) 
So that took care of the physical side. Now back to the energy. You both should take regular salt baths until this is long over. You should smudge each other with smudge sticks and do whatever other aura-clearing and strengthening exercise you like to use. Also do clearing and protective work on both of your homes. Smudging is a really good tool here. Rose water is also good for clearing and protecting. You can mist it all over yourselves and your homes. When you clear and protect your homes, don't forget the walls and ceilings and yards, and especially concentrate on your doors and windows and other entryways. They are very important. Use a lot of visualization techniques on yourselves and your homes. See your outer layers of your aura as a force field, where only what you allow to come in can come in, and his energy is not able to come in. Visualize a pentacle or runes for protection like a seal anywhere you feel like your aura needs extra protection, whatever symbol works for you. Do the same for your house. Around you is a force field shaped like an egg. See the egg or spherical force field around your home. Use seals where necessary. I especially use seals in the areas over my chakras and the back of my head/neck, and over doors, gates, windows, etc. Also a big one over the roof and under the ground, and over my head (like a halo) and under my feet. They will still allow healthy energy to flow. It will be more effective once you have cut the energy ties between people. Another visualization for clearing out unwanted energies is to see a sort of star/bomb inside you. It starts deep inside the middle of you. It grows, a blazing ball of light, pushing anything that's not *you* out of it's way. It becomes larger and larger until it has pushed all of the junk out of your energy field. It explodes. In your mind, and asking the help of your spirit guardians, ground the energy into the Earth with an intention that it will become something healthier, be like a fertilizer and a seed, become a happy flower. More in another comment.
Blessed be
Me: Oh, I see. I would say you probably shouldn't do any magic on him until she has told him, and only then if he refuses to move on.
Her:  EXACTLY. Fir some strange reason, I feel more clear and she does too. She needs to talk first. I will let you know if or when we need back up. Sorry, sometimes I just need to talk things out for them to make sense.
Me:  That's fine, I know how that works. :) Glad I could help. She will feel a lot better if she handles this by talking honestly. It's healthier.
Her:  We are laughing right now. We both have 2 Master degrees and 3 bachelors each. Both working on our PhDs and never thought to talk to the guy......
Me:  LOL, it's really okay, it's just how it worked out. Just didn't come up in your minds...it happens to everyone all the time. ;P But good that you can get a laugh out of it.

I'm not even sure I should tell you what I'm thinking/feeling right now.  O.O  ROFLMAO!
Oh, but I will.  Once I recover a bit.  Hahahahaha!
Hey, this made me feel...kinda...smart.  I mean...they have all those degrees and obviously she thinks she knows more about magic than me because she's older or something, but there are so many things about what she said and what they are both thinking/doing that are...just kinda...for lack of a better word, STUPID.  I knew better when I was a five year old.  But I'm not saying anything to her about it.  They'll learn in their own time, they won't learn it from me.



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